Baby vs. Husband

Okay ladies, advice on not overshadowing being a wife because you are a mom?

It's hard to watch the kid (s) all day, plus cook and clean, and then have enough energy to be sexy when your hubby shows up. I've read in countless baby/mom books to not forget about your husband and his needs. How do you remain not only a good wife who does the laundry etc., but a great wife with a happy husband?